You've always been
there for them They count on you for advice, love, friendship,
a shoulder to cry on, inspiration and - most importantly - to share
their lives and all that's important to them. And then there are those
special stories and photos that have meant so much over time. But
what if you're not there, or become incapacitated? Or if memories
begin to fade, how can those stories and images be there for those
you love?
Private
Thoughts is a fitting companion step to creating a Legacy
of the Heart, where you leave much of your essence on
custom-built web pages for all to see and hear. Use the Private Thoughts
Comfort Connection in a similar way, orchestrating words, music and
pictures. But here you leave these lively and inspiring web pages
to individuals, exclusively theirs to unlock and treasure. Powerfully
consoling and inspiring, your Private Thoughts Comfort Connection
is a multimedia expression of your endless love and friendship.
Whether
your time on earth is winding down, or you have a whole lifetime ahead,
you can use Private Thoughts as a virtual multi-media diary, whose
pages come alive when they are delivered to the loved ones and friends
you select.
Picture the one
who misses you so much, leaning toward you and extending a gaze and
a hand for you to grasp. The conversation that follows is low and
private. It raises your loved one's feelings of confidence or self-esteem.
Your relationship is deeply appreciated, once again.
Your friend, your loved one draws comfort and perhaps motivation to
do their best. And it comes just when they need it most.
These are Private Thoughts - Comfort Connections that you can leave
behind, available to revisit always. As enduring as the spirit of
affection and reassurance you are radiating right now.
Each
Private Thoughts Comfort Connection is delivered at a time
or times you designate, or you may designate a particular
Guardian to determine when is most appropriate. The Thoughts
are securely stored, unlocked by password and delivered only
to the individuals you name. It may be an anniversary or birthday,
wedding, graduation or birth of a child that brings particular
need, or just Life 101, times when thoughts from you are most
wanted and needed.
But
the building of the Comfort Connection can begin now, using
the tools provided on this page.
It can be as general as a reassurance that in some way you
will always be there as a positive force. A photograph, a
song or a poem that recalls what you currently share. Or it
may be aimed at a particular feeling, longing or hope that
you wish to address or inspire.
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for a full view of the Private Thoughts left for Lisa
Perhaps
you won't be there for special milestones such as your loved
one's graduation, engagement, wedding, birth of a child, landing
an important job or retirement. Maybe you've always been the
shoulder to lean on during tough times, because you always
seemed to know just what to say. When problems arise, you
can still provide that shoulder. You can create Private Thoughts
on anything: from relationship problems and how to handle
different situations, to all those "remember when"
times of your life. You have that power, using pictures and
words by yourself or others, recordings you create or writings
in your own hand. However it appears, however it sounds, it
is your reassuring voice, sharing your hopes, wishes or advice.
We
hear you saying to yourself. "What do I need this for now?
I don't want to think about when I won't be here." True,
none of us really like to think about this time. Suppose you
were to put off the other important things in your life? If
you're like most people, when something is important to you,
like having a new home or car, a college education or a vacation,
you wouldn't just expect the money to be there when you need
it. Wouldn't you plan and save for it?
Now, you don't
have to miss important opportunities, for lack of planning ahead:
being able to comfort, educate, advise, share history, preserve
memories and inspire your loved ones, each in their own way,
at points in the future that you never before thought possible.
Create your Private Thoughts now and you will have the peace
of mind that those thoughts are there especially for them, when
you can't be.
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for a full view of the thoughts left from Dad.
You
can narrow that void that will result when you are no longer
there for them in person. It is easy to imagine how your comfort
and inspiration will remind those who have gained and grown
from your thoughts and the value of your insights, your compassion,
and your personal connection.
What you build today,
hopefully, will not be needed for many years to come, so be
assured you can continue to add to your Private Thoughts Comfort
Connection over the weeks and years ahead. Additionally, as
your Private Thoughts grow through the years, think of good
times you'll have looking back and reminiscing about all that
was important then and still is.
This
little true story will illustrate the point. Meet a young mother
who has been writing down the funny things her children have
said and done throughout the years. When these things happen,
she's often out and about, so she writes them down on scraps
of paper, which end up getting tucked here and there, which
could easily be lost for good. Now, with Private Thoughts, she
has a safe place to store her memories and share them with those
who mean the most to her. Here is page she is creating in the
childhood memories section of her Private Thoughts.
She
has been adding stories on scraps of paper over the years,
and now there are hundreds of them. How could she possibly
remember them all? She wants to be able to tell them to
her children when they're grown, or her grandchildren,
as they laugh over the silly things their parents did
when they were little. If there is no safe place to record
those memories, they can be lost, just as easily as losing
the piece of paper they are written on, tucked in some
drawer.
There was the
time her 3 year-old was looking a quarter and said, "Mommy,
look! Here's George Washington on my quarter!" The proud
mom is thinking how smart her little one is to recognize and
know the name of a President." At her moment of glowing
pride, he flips the quarter over and exclaims, "And look
who's on the other side it's Batman!"
And
then there was that time on Halloween, when all the decorations
were up. Her youngest son looked at the spooky graveyard
scene with a goblin hovering over the tombstone, which
read "R.I.P." He asks, "Mommy, what does R.I.P. mean?"
Before she could answer, her 8 year old chimed in and
said, "Stupid, don't you know anything? It means
Rest In Pieces!"
So whether you
use Private Thoughts to teach, advise, comfort or to pass on
favorite memories, begin now to reinforce those bonds. Remember
they are delivered when you or a designated guardian decide
is just the right time. And they can be added to and enriched
throughout the days of your life.
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First we need a little
information from you, so we can ensure your Private Thoughts
get delivered just the way you want.
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Step
2- Enter Your Recipient's Information
Now
you're ready to select loved ones and colleagues who will be
receiving your Private Thoughts. We have created an address
book with unlimited space for names and addresses. You will
be able to designate which people get particular messages, simply
by putting a check next to their name.
Step
3- Create Your Private Thoughts
We provide the forms
for you to create as many messages as your heart desires.
You simply type in what you want to say, choose any
background or music you wish, attach any photos, documents
or audio/video that you would like included, by using
our simple attachment tool, and then put a check next
to your intended recipient.
Now, if the words
aren't quite coming to you, and you'd like a little
help to express what you want to say, we have a variety
of tools for you.
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Please
feel free to use these reflections and images, taking them whole
or using them as a springboard for your own expressions. Perhaps
you have difficulty finding the proper words even in the best
of times. Writing can be a challenge at times for even the most
schooled professionals. As this site is largely about sharing,
we gladly do so here. Just select whatever wording or images
you like. With a click of the mouse, they will become part of
your own Private Thoughts Comfort Connection.
The
times of our lives are made up of so many special moments to remember,
share and pass down. It's not just the big occasions, but the
little day-to-day "stuff of life." If you would like,
you'll find an idea bank below to help jog your memory as you
think of the many possibilities of what you'd like to talk about.
Imagine how much it will mean to the important people in your
life that you've addressed all the subjects they wish you were
here to talk about, or that they wish you could remember to talk
about, if you are here and have forgotten.
And what about all those unlabeled photographs sitting in drawers,
shoe boxes or photo albums waiting for you to finally forget details
about the people and events they show. C'mon we all have them.
Use your Private Thoughts pages to archive photos and tell the
special stories they illustrate. We give you the tools to keep
the memories, stories and history alive.
Even
photos which are in albums will fade over time, ultimately
being lost forever...but not so in Private Thoughts
So
Much To Talk About-Some Advice,
Thoughts, Stories And Wishes To Share
Our nonprofit mission is
to serve all who experience loss. A portion of our contributions
are set aside so all who desire may share their private thoughts
in words and pictures. Or work with our design team to create
something more, at the same time making a donation to help sustain
our services in support of people struggling with grief. Scholarships
are available.
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Private Thoughts
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Private Thoughts
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Private Thoughts
Create Platinum Private Thoughts
One password-protected
web page with 1 photo and 250 words, with a choice of background
and song.
You may
also include up to 20 e-mail addresses to send the message
to.
Generous
contributions of others have made it possible for us to provide
this as a free public service.
Click below
and begin.
No Annual Renewal is requested, however
all contributions are so helpful, and greatly appreciated.
10 pages,
each with a choice of 1 music selection and background.
Silver Private
Thoughts include a total of 15 photos and titles
You may include up to 100 e-mail addresses for messages.
Additional
photos, $25 each. Add $20 for a DVD copy. Annual renewal,
$10.
$150 Donation
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Annual renewal donation $10.
25 pages,
each with a choice of 1 music selection and background.
Gold Private Thoughts include a total of 25 photos and titles.
You can include up to
5 minutes of audio and/or video clips.
You may
include up to 300 total e-mail addresses for messages.
Additional photos, $25 each. Additional Audio Clips, $10 per
minute. Add $20 for a DVD copy.
$250 Donation
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Annual renewal donation $20.
Unlimited
pages, each with a choice of music selection and background.
Platinum Private Thoughts include unlimited photos and text.
You can include up to 25 minutes of audio and/or video clips.
You may include up to 300 e-mail addresses for messages. Additional
Audio or Video Clips, $10 per minute, for a maximum of 35 minutes.